During Family Matters on May 14 we had a nice conversation about attachment, understanding attachment over the lifespan, and how attachment relationships in childhood influence future relationships. Here are some of the points we discussed:
- Reasonable limit-setting around issues of safety help a child learn a parent’s predictability and nurtures a sense of security. This can foster attachment.
- Helping a child learn boundaries at various developmental stages, both for him or herself and others, nurtures healthy attachments and fosters positive relationships.
- Attunement on the part of parents and caregivers fosters healthy attachment.
- Children learn a lot from what they observe and experience. We discussed children’s childhood attachments forming some of the templates for their future relationships.
- Attachments change over time, and children have different attachments to different people.
Our next Family Matters discussion will be held Wednesday, May 28 from 5:00 – 6:00 p.m. We will be discussing exceptional children and meeting the learning needs of all kinds of learners. We hope you will join us.
Post by Sarah Wilhelms, MSW, LCSW