Loving Your Child [Part 3 of 3]

In the mornings, be intentional about saying goodbye to your child. Make eye contact, give a tighthug or high five, say goodbye, and let your child know that you will see him or her in the afternoon orwhomever will be there to pick up. It’s important for children to know who will be picking them up andwhen. In the afternoon when you or the person picking up your child arrives, make it a warm, loving reunion.

Show excitement to see your child, open your arms to welcome him or her back into your care,and say his or her name as acknowledgement that you are greeting specifically your child. Children maynot always want to hug but may be excited to show you something or tell you something about the day,a friend, etc. Basically, the message is to be attentive and attuned to your child. He or she may want totell you that you were missed during the day, and that is a normal expression of feeling and attachment.It’s healthy to express these feelings. Receive them and respond with empathy. If you missed yourchild, tell him or her. They need to know your feelings, too.

• See your child. Notice your child. Tell him or her how special he or she is and how lucky you areto be his or her parent. Children are gifts.
• Be predictable. This builds safety, security, and trust. Trust is essential for developing healthyrelationships. It will be helpful when you have to say, “no.”
• Learn to love your child for who he or she is as a separate individual from you. You will grow toknow an incredible human being who wants to be just like you!

If your child is having difficulties with transitions in the mornings and/or afternoons, please talkwith your teacher about your concerns or contact Sarah Boeker, Director of Clinical Services. Often,developing a plan that includes everyone can help make parenting easier.

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